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I have received more compliments on the following picture:

Well let's see the picture un-cropped:

Now you know the full story. It was the first time I was ever drunk, and up until this point, and hopefully forever, the last time. So maybe that's why I have received so many compliments. I don't have a lot of self-esteem when it comes to my appearance. Maybe I just needed a little relaxation, to gain an I don't care about my appearance attitude. Maybe I just needed that attitude so I can naturally express it. As we have learned earlier, "confidence is sexy too".

Every day my confidence in myself grows a little more. Don't get me wrong; I hate arrogance. So I try to remain humble. I guess I need to find a balance. I don't have a lack of confidence, I know it. There are certain ways that I come off and I don't mean to.

• I am a dork
  What does that mean? Well instead of following the most strict definition of the word (I am not a penis, or socially awkward). It means that I am not uptight or stuck-up. Instead of caring so much about what people think of me like I did in my past life, I figure if anyone has a problem with me, it's really their problem and not mine.
• I like to laugh, and make people laugh
  What does this mean? I make jokes at my own expense. I like to make people laugh, and a lot of times it's easier to make fun of myself. Another trait that has me coming off as having a lack of confidence. A lot of the jokes I make about myself I don't even believe. A certain person said to me once "It's easy to make jokes about you." Well, that doesn't mean jack shit. It doesn't make me less of a "Man" just because it is easy. It means I can laugh at myself, which makes me more of one in my opinion.
• I have had a lifelong battle with acne
  This is probably the biggest attribute to my self-esteem issues. I have self-esteem issues about my appearance. I know I'm funny, responsible, honest, loyal, dependable, and a nice guy. I don't think I'm physically attractive. The acne doesn't help. I have been to a dermatologist. I am going to go again soon. Acutane works, but it comes back when I stop taking it.
• I am a nice guy
  I have to be careful with this one. I don't want to be a push-over. That isn't sexy. If I care for someone though, then I want to make them the happiest person alive to the best I know how. A girl doesn't want a guy to always say "how high" to the "jump" command. Sometimes she wants to hear, "No". I understand that now. This is a hard one for me to not do.
• I have issues approaching women
  Do I have issues with women, talking to them, hanging out, or doing more? No. I have issues going up to a stranger, playing the stupid game, and asking them out. I would rather become friends with someone first. It takes some of the pressure off. The problem here is you enter the forbidden "friend zone" too easily. That sucks.
• I am not desperate for a girlfriend
  I think I come off as desperate but I really am not. I just know that I have a lot to offer someone out in the world. I want to love someone, and I want someone to love me. That isn't desperation, its just a natural part of life.

One thing that I have learned is a lot of girls like jerks and not nice guys. Is there something wrong with our society or what?

There is one person out there that I care so deeply for, but its over now. There is another person that I really like a lot, but the distance between us sucks (and I'm talking physical miles here.) I don't even know if I am anything more than just a friend to her. (Does it even matter? Does the distance have too strong a grip to make it not work? Not worth trying for?)

I have no idea what this post is about.

I'm curious, has this post made me come off as more or less confident? Does asking that very question make me come off as more or less confident?